Your patience might be rewarded!) Here is the problem: We both have careers that could be complicated or damaged by the stigma around “cheating.” I know about all the apps out there, but we live a large city, and there is a non-zero chance that we might run into someone on the apps we are connected to professionally or socially. (Note to other guys who want this from their wives: be respectful, don't pressure, and give her time to think about it. Fast-forward to this week, and my wife tells me she is interested in exploring this. She was curious about it and wondered if I really wanted it to happen or if it was just something I wanted to keep in our rotation of dirty talk. So, I was extremely relieved when her reaction was intrigue rather than disgust. Her views on sex had always been traditional, and she had always expressed a very strict idea of monogamy and commitment. Several years back, I opened up to my wife about my fantasies of her sleeping with other men. I'm a straight guy, married to a straight woman for 15 years.